How To Enjoy Sex in a marriage

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By Felixedet2000

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Sex is the ultimate in marriages:

The ultimate in the sense that it is what actually defines a marriage the way it is, it gives impetus to the institution of marriage, and it distinguishes marriage from all other institution in a special way.

Without good and pleasurable sex life, a marriage becomes ordinary.

Sex can be an emotional act in many instances:

This is very true concerning the female folks, men most of the time just wants sex for pleasure without any emotional attachment. But it is not so for the women, theirs is quite different. A lot of emotions and deep feelings are attached; sex is a means by which a woman rules her world. It is a time where a woman needs complete privacy, a time for her to express herself and showcase what stuff she is made up of.

It is something you can’t deny them; doing so means you don’t care about them either ways. No man wants to be in a woman’s bad book though, but you have to give to ceaser what is ceaser’s.

The Issue of Sex and marriage can be view from many perspectives:

a. Sound Mind:

Sex is many things to many couples, I recommend each couple to have their on customized words and action for their sex life. Sex is a mental exercise and as well a physical exercise. A troubled mind will hardly enjoy sex; sex is not for the immature minds. It is the adult’s food. It soothes the mind and calms the trouble hearts.

It is a thing of pleasure, fun and excitement. It makes life meaningful and worth while. After all the hassles, sex heals the healable and mends the mend-able.

It is a food for the mature mind, it has healing power, it has the ability to cure minor sickness, and sex indeed is a physical therapy.

For the benefit to be maximized the approach has to be right and the right approach before any sex life is for a sound mind. Otherwise you will get sapped out of all your energies without any physical or mental gratification after the act.

b. Serene Environment:

One of the reasons why some couples have problems with their sex life is their inability to choose when to have sex and when not, provided there is an understanding between them. The serene environment in this instance has nothing to do with five star hotels kind of environments, rather it the serenity of the hearts of the mind and the woman.

When the heart is willing the body is at the mercy of the heart's command. Ever feel a burning passion and desire to make love with your spouse and you find out that the environment isn't ok?

Don’t get offended about that, all you simply have to do is to resolve to the slow gear, it has to do with slowing the tempo down till the right time.

The aim of this hub is to expose the tips and advice accordingly on how to have a good sex life in a marriage.

Good sex Life:

The following tips discuss the issue of good sex life in marriage and how to go about it.

Good Perspective of sex: Focus your attention to the substance of sex, and see it in the eye of a lover, sex is a good thing and as such should be carried out the way it is for real, anything else is adulteration.

Synchronize your view on sex with your spouse: Women are more interested in the whole of the relationship compare to the male counterparts, please wives, don’t judge your husband for being attracted physically than emotionally, that’s' the way men were made. They are move by sight more than feelings.

Remain Beautiful and sexy al always: Most women quickly get tire of doing the make ups the were use to before getting married, may be due to pressure from the home front plus jobs, but in any case, Endeavour to still look sleek and sexy , to get his attention at the slightest of sight.

Are you inhibitive to Sex?: Many people are in this condition without their knowing it, you just can't explain why there is no urge for sex, when you feel one, it quenches suddenly before you know it.

If you happen to be in this condition all you have to do is to tell your spouse the way you feel exactly and he will always be there to help you out. Please don’t keep silence about the way you feel to your spouse, it can send wrong signal without you intention for such.

Doctor your Husband on you turns on: Teach your husband how to turn you on, some men are lazy about this, but patient and understand can move mountains where there was one. Once he gets to know your turn on, that may be the joker to a pleasant sex life, and a healthier relationship.

Avoid Boring moments during sex: Don’t allow your love making to be boring, open you mind and sense the atmosphere, when tilting towards this end, know how to reverse the trend, remember, you are on your way up to pleasant sex life, the road might not be so smooth at the on set but with determination, a testimony will sure come out of this experience. Thanks for being there always.


I remain my humble self


Felix.




Comments

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Perspycacious Level 7 Commenter 5 months ago

A different view: love is the essence of marriage, not sex. Sexual relations within marriage are one sharing of the love which is the glue of a marriage, and as important as it is that that expression be healthy and mutual, it is only one expression of the love that is needed. Sex alone can't hold a marriage together, and marriage entered into with a primary focus on the sexual relationship of the two wedded partners is likely doomed to fail, as close to 50% of marriages do today. Focus on love, and the good sex follows. Focus on sex, and too much of the love relationship could be missing.

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Felixedet2000 Hub Author 5 months ago

Yes that's true too, but love without sex in marriage is a serious problem, there wont be marriage in the first instance without love, so love is not totally out of context here. Thanks for your view, i appreciate it a lot.

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Denise Handlon Level 8 Commenter 5 months ago

I agree with perspycacious-without love there is no basis for marriage. And, in some marriages sex is not possible, or it ends because of physical difficulties or serious illness. However, the marriage remains because of the love of the two individuals who base their union on something more than sex.

In the end-sex can be managed by an individual alone. One does not need marriage for sex. But, a loveless marriage is a betrayal of the heart.

Interesting and well written article. Thanks for sharing.

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adultsearch 5 months ago

Great hub, I will try all these things. This is so informational. Keep it up.

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Felixedet2000 Hub Author 3 months ago

Adultsearch, things will take a new turn when you try this tips, life is beautiful and we have to make it so, sex is beautiful when you have it with someone you love and adore.

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Felixedet2000 Hub Author 3 months ago

Self expression and confidence can be learn, try and adapt to what your partner is OK with for the sake of love.

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Felixedet2000 Hub Author 2 months ago

Thanks also for taking time to go through the hub.

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Felixedet2000 Hub Author 8 weeks ago

love might or may be the essence of marriage, to add to that we have the trust factor as the single most important factor.

Marriage is not only about love or sex, it more about the essence of life itself.

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tamarawilhite Level 4 Commenter 7 weeks ago

It is tragic how rarely the media or books portray sex within marriage as good or wonderful. The media seems to portray marriage as only good before marriage or when cheating on a spouse, and that is a disservice.

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Felixedet2000 Hub Author 7 weeks ago

The media care more about profiteering than promoting an institution like marriage.

marriage defines every society because children are mostly products of marriage. The home is where future leaders are bread. I know the contribution of the school can not be rule out, but the parents hold the ace.

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Felixedet2000 Hub Author 6 weeks ago

The role of the media in every society is important though, but we need to be a little cautious about our perception of them. They are as infallible as anyone else.

Media is a tool for information and miss-information. I can recounts the numbers of propaganda that the media has been use to push forward and the people have made to believe falsehoods and be in the dark until someone speaks out.

Those in the media know about this very well.

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